I walked into a store the other day and caught one clerk saying to another "check this out", while pointing at me. They both laughed and when I looked they tried to hide it.

I admit it bothered me a little, like an itch you can't quite reach. Maybe I'm just used to such rude behavior from people, which in itself is a shame. I don't dwell on it usually and let it just roll off my back, but I want to tell you of one instance where I didn't.

For some reason on this particular day, years ago, I was feeling down and a bit vulnerable. I lived in an apartment complex and had new neighbors moving in next door. I happened to be going to my car in the parking lot and a woman and two men were standing at a moving van, taking a break and looking in my direction.

As I got close to them one said something to the other two in a different language and they all looked at me and busted out laughing. I'm sure they thought they were in the clear because I couldn't understand them, but you know when you are being talked about.

I felt so humiliated and hurt, especially because I was going to approach them and say hello and welcome. I turned around, walked back to my apartment and began sobbing uncontrollably. I was hysterical and went and sat on my closet floor because I didn't want my family to see me in such a state.

Now obviously I realize I was feeling bad to begin with, but that was the straw that broke the camels back. I felt so worthless and stupid. I cried for an hour or so till I got it all out, and went on with my life.

I am not a freak. I am not the object of your jokes. I know that there will always be people you don't like, or are different enough to grab your attention, but for god sakes you don't have to make it obvious, and you don't have to be rude. Think about that next time you are in a similar situation. Even freaks have feelings.

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I came upon this really great article from a woman doctor that talks about the stages that our breasts go through on their way down. It's a witty piece but more than that it points out that it is a subject not talked about.

I believe that because so much connection is made between a woman and her breasts, it is simple unthinkable to talk about the fact that in her late thirties and early forties, she can expect that the balloons are deflating. More than that they are on their way to disappearing almost completely.

Women with small breasts to begin with are the most bothered by this, but in the end, all any of us will be left with are folds of hollow skin with nipples.

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A woman had a suspicious growth in her breast and had a biopsy done. The lab who did the biopsy reported that the woman had breast cancer. Her doctor determined that based on the information the biopsy provided, she needed to have a double mastectomy to save her life.

After surgery she was told that she didn't have cancer and never did. They believe the mix up occurred because the sample from the biopsy was mislabeled by the lab technician who was handling more than one sample at a time.

To make the situation worse there is also a woman out there who had this aggressive form of breast cancer and may not have been told in time.

People don't usually have second biopsies, however if the results of a biopsy are going to cause you to loose a part of your body, maybe a second biopsy would seem in order. I for one after hearing this story, would insist on it.

The woman is suing the lab and I hope she gets every penny she's asking for.

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study has discovered that most women are very misinformed about breast cancer. They say that many believe it comes from genetics and that eating a lot of fresh fruits and vegetables will protect them from getting it. Women still think that the best way of finding it are breast self exams, and mammograms.

They say breast cancer not only needs awareness, but also better education and more research.

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